Is fear stopping YOU from truly living

Is fear stopping you from truly living?

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It is not surprising that the moment we start to move forward with a dream or goal that we hold close to our heart, the fear and self doubt start to creep up and take over the show. Usually leaving us paralized and unable to move forward.

I think we have all felt this way, right? I know I have. When fear takes over I start to doubt myself. Fear makes me worry about what people think of me, and worst of all sometimes it succeeds and I give up on my plans all together.

Fear tends to be like that horrible backseat drive that wasn't invited but decided to come on the journey anyway.

Loud, obnoxious, gives the worst unwanted advice and generally ruins what would be an otherwise pleasant adventure.

Are you stuck on the sidelines of your own life because you have allowed fear to take over?

As the lovely Elizabeth Gilbert puts it:

" Fear is always triggered by creativity, because creativity asks you to enter realms of uncertain outcome, and fear hates uncertain outcome. This is nothing to be ashamed of, it is, however, something to be dealt with."

So how do we start to move past fear and start truly living?

First step would be to except that it will always be there no matter what you do. So stop focusing on the fear so much and get back to the magic that is your dreams.

Now I don't know about you, but I actually appreciate fear sometimes, it reminds me to be weary of certain situations like walking down a dark street late at night by yourself, or leaping off a cliff into the water just because everyone else is.

It took a while to accept but I have learnt that fear will always be there so instead of constantly fighting or resenting fear, let's embrace it.

Second step:

Talk to fear like you would an old friend. Let's forget about fighting against fear and instead reason with it. Thanks fear for it's opinion but remind her that she is not in charge. Fear can continue with you on your journey, but you are making all the decision.

Before I go I would love to leave you with one simply question to ponder.

If fear was not a factor, what would you be doing with your life right now?

I would love to hear what you come up with. Feel free to leave a comment below, or head on over to my Instagram where the real party is.